5 Ways to Search for Your Birth Parents
Updated October 6, 2023
If you were adopted, it’s only natural to be curious about your biological parents. People have different reasons to want to search for them. You might want to establish and build a relationship with them, fill in gaps in your family history, get ethnic or cultural information, or learn more about your medical history. Here are five effective ways to search for and find your birth parents.
1. People Finders
People finders offer excellent opportunities to search for people online, regardless of your target. Some of them will retrieve information about your parents’ current whereabouts using only their names. Of course, any other information will help, too.
2. Adoption Registry Databases
When it comes to the contents of adoption files made available by authorities, the laws and guidelines vary from state to state. Free registries such as adoption.com and ISRR are available for adopted individuals. Depending on the specific situation, additional services may be required. Before they got lucky, some adoptees have registered with numerous similar sites. The good news is that you don’t need much information to benefit from their services.
Another good option is reunionregistry.org. Apart from these registries, each state usually has its own. Given how every adoption differs from every other, every search for one’s biological parents is unique in itself. The information that’s already available to you determines the level of difficulty of any search. You’re one step ahead if you know your birth parents’ names, where you were born, and other important information.
If possible, ask your adoptive parents whether your adoption was closed or open, as well as whether they had used a lawyer and/or an adoption agency, had contact with your biological parents, and have any adoption documents at their disposal. If they did use a lawyer or agency, you should ask about your birth parents’ names. Further, it is a good idea to ask for any other information they might have on your biological parents.
3. Adoption Agencies
Reach out to the adoption agency or attorney for further details. If you’re of legal age, the process may be easier for you. Birth parents often leave information for their children when the latter are of age to start looking for them.
4. Social Media
You can also use social media in your search for your birth parents. You need to do a bit of research to find out which social networks can facilitate reunions of close relatives. Facebook is a good starting point for a general search, particularly if you are lucky enough to have your biological parents’ names.
Your search should also entail a state-level approach. If you know where you were adopted, you can contact the Department of Vital Records in that state. Typically, states have birth registries and adoption consents available. Your state’s department will be able to help with the information available to you as an adopted child, as well as any documents you may need. This might depend on the information the local authorities have on your biological parents. For instance, some biological parents want the adoptee to identify them upon their children’s request.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. The more information you get, the better equipped you’ll be to utilize the resources available to you.
Regardless of the reasons you are looking for your birth parents, your desire to do so is commendable. Your quest for information shows deep self-respect, a wish for mental and emotional well-being, and peace of mind.